What Do Men REALLY Want? PART 1

Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a “weaker” woman who will make them feel like they are smarter and more powerful. 

Real men want  woman who inspire them because she has great things going on in her own life. They want a woman who has her own purpose other than being in a relationship.

I’d explain better in the following subjects topics:

-Appreciation
-Looks aren’t enough
-Playing hard to get
-Respect
-Let him play his role

Appreciation
If you can genuinely appreciate the little things he does, he will go out of his way to do the big things as well.
Men are starved for appreciation. No man is going to come right out and say it, so you’re really going to have to take my word for it. In relationships, women mostly want to feel loved and understood. What men want most is to be appreciated and respected. Rather than focusing on what your man isn’t doing, try to hone in on the good things he is doing (there has to be some).
There is no greater feeling to a man than that of being truly seen and appreciated for who he is by the woman he cares about. The trouble is a lot of women can’t see past the things he isn’t doing right. And what’s worse is a lot of women will harp on a man over these things, which makes him less inclined to do the things she wants. Instead, it makes him feel like a failure and he will shut down as a result.

Looks aren’t enough 

Let me explain this.
A common misconception from women about what men really want is looks.
As I said before, guys reserve their deepest level of respect and attraction for those women who are independent and confident in their own life, with or without a man. Remember, when a guy is attracted solely by looks, he has then formed in his mind a singular challenge which is “SLEEP WITH HER AND GET LOST”.

Playing hard-to-get
Being a challenging woman implies a sense of continuity, rather than becoming a single challenge which once completed becomes boring.
Playing hard to get is only an illusion of independence, which will quickly vanish after the ‘chase’ is over.
Hard-to-get only teaches you to pretend to be an independent, interesting and confident woman, instead of truly being one.

Respect:
In addition to being appreciated, men have an enormous need to feel respected. We all do (both men and women) but this desire burns stronger in men. What I mean by respect is understanding who he is and what he needs and giving him space to express himself without making demands on him and prioritizing yourself over him.

Respect means accepting he needs certain things, even if they are totally against what you want or need. For example, when men get stressed,they usually like to retreat into their “cave” to sort things out. They don’t necessarily like talking through the problem and would rather work it out on their own and then come back into the relationship re-charged.
So let’s say your guy is having a hard time and needs some time alone, but you really want him to be open and honest with you and want him to share his feelings,give him the space to work through his issues even though you would prefer that he talk to you about it, because that’s what’s going to be most beneficial for him.  Respecting him entails putting what’s best for him above what you want.

Give him some space
While some of your previous relationships may have proven otherwise, the truth is men are natural givers. Yes, that’s right. They want to give, they want to provide, and they want to make you happy. What they don’t want is to be bossed around and told what to do.

When a woman tells a man what to do, she is essentially emasculating him by taking away the very thing that makes him feel significant: his ability to provide. When you boss him around, he feels like a failure for not being able to do his job. Rather than wanting to do more for you, he feels defeated and  retreats.

To be continued…

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