My Family Is Dead To Me – Boy, Chidera Who Destroyed Mother’s Properties In Viral Video Reacts
A teenage Nigerian boy, Chidera, who was filmed in a viral video destroying things in his family’s house after an argument has detailed the alleged happenings that led to his action.
In the viral video, the boy was seen opening and pouring food items in the kitchen on the floor.
He ignored his mother and other persons in the video who tried to reason with him and calm him down.
His mother was asked why he was destroying things, she said he came home and started demanding some things from her, including his ‘P21’ passport.
She said he went into rage when she refused give the items to him and subsequently began breaking things in the house.
Taking to his Twitter page, the young lad who resides in Ireland shared his own side of the story, alleging that his mum “is a very abusive, aggressive and violent person.”
Chidera detailed how his mom had been physically assaulting him, and how the said assault led to the rage which was covered in the viral video.
Narrating what happened, he said the issue between him and his mum has been on for a while.
He claimed that because of his mum’s violent and abusive nature, he lives in fear, adding that he sometimes sleeps with his mattress by the door out of fear that his mother might carry out her threat on his life.
Chidera stated that at some point, things got so bad that she was not talking to him or feeding him.
The young man also alleged that she sent him out of the house about a month ago and the social workers and Gardai (Ireland police) had to get involved.
During the period he was kicked out of home, he said he was moved to live in so many places.
Chidera stated he was later advised to make things work with his mother, so he went back home together with some social workers.
While at home, he asked for his passport to fill out college applications but his mother was not cooperative.
He said the people who escorted him home to make peace with his mother were there at the time and he told them that he was going to the kitchen to make a meal for himself, which his mother did not object to.
The young lad stated that after those who came home with him left, his mother asked him who gave him the permission to take her food and started to attack him.
Chidera said rage took over and he decided to destroy things in the house, as he could not hit his mother back.
He declared that he feels nothing but hatred and disgust for his family including his father and brothers, stressing;
I feel nothing towards this family other than pure disgust and hatred for the way they all treated me ( my brothers and fathers included) And I do not think I can ever bring myself to ever reconcile with them. I have changed my number and deleted all contact with them.
Chidera concluded his statement saying;
Everyone is entitled to their opinion and that is fine But as of now the family is dead to me and all I am focused on is my future and college. Again I would like to sincerely thank everyone who knew that there was more to the story and knew the truth and supported me.
Read his story below;
Firstly I would like to begin by saying thank you for everyone who has showed love to me. ❤️
I was very shocked to find out that my personal business was so publicly displayed and that the narrative was twisted and changed to portray me as a bad guy. https://t.co/6cHVVmAUdb— Chidera Jedidiah (@chxdeks) July 8, 2020
My actions as seen in this video was not because of “disagreement” or a “passport” issue as my mum describes in the video.
My mum is a very abusive, aggressive and violent person and she has been all my life. When I say aggressive and violent, I am not exaggerating… I have endured plates/knives thrown at me. I even have to remove my mattress and put it up to the door when I sleep for fear she will do something to me in my sleep as she frequently threatens to.
I have kept all of this very private, not even my friends knew. So I was in shock to find this video circulating the internet.
I have tried talking to her about it but she is to deep in her “Nigerian culture” to ever listen and ends up having aggressive fits.
She then left me no other choice when she kicked me out of the house about over a month ago to report myself in.
This how social workers and Gardaí (Ireland police) were brought in. I was moved to numerous places over the duration of this month and feared going back to her abuse.
However, after a conversation from the man and the woman seen in this video, I decided to go back home and make it work with my mum (with my social worker present of course).
Unfortunately, as you all can see this “peace” did not last long.
The day of this altercation, I had indeed asked for my passport to fill out college applications but my mum was not at all cooperative, in fact at this point, she had been ignoring me in the house and refusing to feed me. I was cycling to my friends house daily to eat.
So to avoid one of her violent outbreaks I went and looked for it myself without her knowledge.
When I could not find it, I did go back to her to ask her for it again. She then began to be aggressive and violent trying to physically carry me and move me from the room.
She was groping slapping and punching me and obviously I will not fight my own mother back, so I told her to stop or I would begin to break things.
At this moment that was the only way I saw, for me to get her to stop without being violent back to her, however she continued. So I broke a few things like hairdryers (we were still upstairs at this point) and my little brother called the guards.
The guards arrived and seeing as how they could resolve the issue they warned both me and my mother to stay away from each other till police were notified (again)
So, the guards made their way downstairs and I accompanied them because I wanted to make myself food. My mum was still present through all of this and did not voice her disagreement to me making food.
The guards told me to make my food and go straight to my room. So the guards left and I was downstairs making food when my mum came rushing downstairs hysterical, telling me I had no right to touch her food. I then asked her why she did not say this when I told the guards I was going to make food .
She got angry and turned off the burner and trying to manoeuvre my way out of another altercation I went to the fridge to eat a cold leftover, she slapped it out of my hand.
What she did next was what provoked the actions you see in this video.
She took powdered pepper and threw it in my face and while I was still disoriented she grabbed a moping stick and reapeatedly beat me with it, she then grabbed me and bit me. I still did not retaliate or fight back .
After this vicious attack she then proceeded to call the three adults featured in this video, her exact words were “You better get here before I kill Chidera”.
They were there in the next 5 minutes. I had to take off my t-shirt and soak it and put it on my face to cool the pepper.
At the moment I just felt sheer rage and instead of getting physical or aggressive with my mum, I decided to trash the kitchen as you see in this video.
Looking back at it, it might not have been the best solution but I did not know what else to do.
The guards were called again and they returned just 30 minutes after they had left and detained me. I was put into emergency care
And I have been in foster since that day last week. I feel nothing towards this family other than pure disgust and hatred for the way they all treated me ( my brothers and fathers included). And I do not think I can ever bring myself to ever reconcile with them. I have changed my number and deleted all contact with them. I have kept all this private to protect all of us as we can all be negatively be impacted by this.
For me to come on social media and receive nasty death threats and messages and finding out they posted this video and painted the narrative completely differently. You might all ask me why I did not correct my mother’s grossly false version of the events while I was smashing things. The answer is I was so consumed by rage and anger after what had just happened to me.
And as you can see in the video I didn’t care about anyone. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and that is fine. But as of now the family is dead to me and all I’m focused on is my future and college. Again I would like to sincerely thank everyone who knew that there was more to the story and knew the truth and supported me.
Watch viral video below;
Boy destroys his mom’s properties, following a disagreement pic.twitter.com/RhWfbOOB6b
— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) July 8, 2020
